It’s funny how God works. It’s funny what happens when you decide to change your way of thinking. Life is a trip man, for real.
I’ve acquired many successes and just as many failures. But I’ve decided to approach these “failures” as learning lessons instead of a reason to wallow in self pity. Waiter, can I have a pity party for one please? Been there, done that. Not cool or fun. But if you’re going through it, I want to share this with you.
Recently I had a potential career opportunity at a really dope marketing firm in LA. Le sign, it didn’t work out, but instead of being in my feelings about it, I thought about it this way…
I saw this moment as a jumpstart in my life. Think about your life or your career as a car. When it shuts down, it needs to be jumpstarted to regain its “spark” to begin functioning correctly again. So you take it to the shop for an evaluation, get it serviced, and it’s fixed and back better than before. Right? Well, I’m approaching my failures as God jumpstarting me to (pardon my french) … get my shit together!
Think about it. You never know who is watching you, following you, or who may be an acquaintance or friend of someone you know. A distant admirer if you will. This particular career opportunity came my way from a close relationship. I had no idea that this person had been keeping up with my social media and what I’ve been up to in the beauty world. I had no idea “the right person” had been paying attention for years and once an opportunity came about, she thought of me for the position. I’m forever grateful for that. There’s power in relationships and there’s power in having your shit together. You have to be ready, because the last thing you want is your “moment” to come your way and you weren’t the least bit prepared for it.
Think of jumpstarts as personal alert messages to you. Be honest and ask yourself a few things. Are you doing enough? What habits could use some revamping or changing all together? Are you really ready and prepared for what you’re asking for? If not, what do you need to do to be better prepared?
It’s so important to surround yourself with the right circle of friends and support systems who encourage and push you to your limit. You have to remain focused and act on what really matters while continuing to eliminate those distractions in your life. If you’re anything like me, I love reading self help books, interviews and biographies. Some great reads to get you going are The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho, #GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso, and Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Myers. These are all GREAT reads that I’ve actually finished and are self motivating in different ways!
As I get older, my goals and aspirations in life change. But one thing remains the same, and that is, at the end of my days, I want to be able to look at God and tell Him that I used everything He gave me during my time on earth and that it was time well spent.
With the new year approaching (I know crazy right?), I want you to take some time and give yourself an honest evaluation of your progress. Grab a trusted friend, mentor, or family member to give you some constructive criticism. Babe, I want you to be ready, because that jumpstart may lead to the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for!
“Everyone tells you to be humble, be humble, be humble. When was the last time someone told you to be great? Be great everybody. Be great! Be amazing!” – Kanye West